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Thursday, October 16, 2025

Reading Journals: The Updates

cartoon woman reading a book with the caption "reading"

I was all excited about my two reading journals--one for nonfiction and the other for fiction. So what happened?

I haven't read any nonfiction books since the first few. That journal is sitting, gathering dust.

The fiction reading journal. I kicked butt on that reading challenge back in May because my book was with my editors, and because I can only work on one project at a time, I had some time without writing/revising which made it easy to read.

I've made a discovery. When I am writing, especially when I am writing a lot of words in a day, I don't want to read. Instead, I just veg out either playing games or watching videos.

This has increased my library book jam. I've kicked so many books I have holds on down the road that it's ridiculous. But I don't want to check them out and then just not read them because I'm too focused on my own work to read someone else's story.

Since I'm trying to get caught up on a reading challenge that started in January and I didn't discover until what? July? This made it an extra challenge for me. I'm still way behind and I don't know if I'll catch up at all because I need to write more than I need to read. People are waiting for Cal and Io's book.

Part of the problem is that I think I should have used an A5 notebook as my journal instead of the 8x8 journal. There's too much to decorate and too much to write, so even on the books I have been reading, my journal is woefully empty. Just the book cover and a sticker where I put the title, author, reading dates, and genre.

I'm rethinking 2026's book journal. I think I am going to try an A5 and this time I'll know about that year-long reading challenge at the beginning of the year, and will tackle it slowly rather than feeling as if I have to race to catch up.

And there's still the problem of not wanting to read when I'm doing a lot of writing. 

Tuesday, October 14, 2025

Why Didn't I Think of This Before?

cartoon woman with question marks

File this under the heading of why didn't I think of this before.

For years, I've had one sheet set, one blanket, and one set of pillow cases for my bed. When I washed them, I would strip the bed, wash and dry, and then remake the bed. When the items wore out, I replaced them.

And then earlier this year, I had a thought. It was such a PITA to wash bedding because while I started out with a lot of energy and determination, by the time the items came out of the dryer, I'd already done ten other things and didn't feel like making the bed.

Of course, there was no other choice unless I planned to sleep in the recliner. (No, I was not planning to do that!)

Earlier this year, I thought, what if I had two sets? I'd strip the bed for the set that needed to be washed, remake the bed with the set I'd washed previously, and when the stuff I washed came out of the dryer, I would put it in the linen closet until it was time to switch again.

Probably everyone on earth except me has more than one set of sheets, blankets, pillow cases, but for some reason, I always did this. I don't know why. When I was growing up, my mom had more than one set of sheets for all the beds. This was my weird brain at work.

With this plan in mind, I invested in a second set of everything and held my breath, wondering if it really would make it easier to wash bedding.

And you know what? It totally did. After I stripped the bed, I was still brimming with energy and was able to make the bed with the clean sheets easily. And while I was still definitely lacking in energy when the bedding came out of the dryer, all I needed to do was fold it and put it away.

Game changer! Suddenly, something I considered one of the worst chores became a million times easier.

I don't know why this didn't occur to me before, but the new system has made my life so much better. Can I blame his on my ADHD? I always said I felt like a failure as an adult, and then I found out I had ADHD and the things I struggled with all the time were directly related to it. Maybe this was one more thing on the list?

Thursday, October 09, 2025

Not So Silent Running

Cartoon cloud with WTF?!? in the center

My office is near the family bathroom--or as I still call it, my dad's bathroom. For those of you who don't know, my dad moved in with me after my mom died and lived with me until he passed away.

Without my dad, the bathroom doesn't get used that often. Even though my office is right there, I generally go over to the master bathroom. A habit that I had while my dad was alive.

A month ago? Two months ago? Somewhere in between? The toilet wouldn't stop running after I flushed it. Another flush fixed the problem.

I rarely used that bathroom, but often when I did, the toilet would keep running. Then it didn't stop on the second flush. Or the third.

This isn't the first time I've dealt with this. It's always the flapper. I left the lid off the tank and press the flapper down. The water doesn't stop running.

It takes a while, but I finally get it to stop. No more using that bathroom even on rare occasions. I don't want to deal with the damn thing running.

That worked. For a while.

One day, I'm sitting in my office writing, and I hear what sounds like a small dog yipping. Since my neighbors are horrible about bringing their dogs in when they won't be quiet, I try to ignore it. Finally, it's so distracting, I can't write another word and I'm getting extremely aggravated.

I leave my office and that's when I realize that wasn't a small dog. That's the toilet making noise as it keeps running!

No one had even used it in weeks. I didn't understand why it did that, but I got it to stop.

Then there was the time I came home from a doctor's appointment and heard it running. No one was even home! 

Finally, just last week, it started running on its own again, and this time, I could not get it to stop no matter how much flushing and jiggling I did. Time to call a plumber. The price of water in Georgia is ridiculous! One month on the bill down here equals three months in Minnesota.

The first plumber I call is the one my dad always used. I roll to his voicemail and then his mailbox is full so I can't leave a message.

Second plumber I call says I'll have to pay for overtime. This is about 1:30 in the afternoon, but to get me in, they'll have to work late. Um, yeah, let me call someone else.

Third plumber sounded promising. Until the woman in scheduling told me they couldn't get anyone out until the next day. I'm like, but the toilet is running! She didn't even sound sorry about it.

For those of you wondering why I didn't just turn the water off to the toilet, I do not have the kind of shut off where you turn the knob. My shut off requires I pull something out, and the one time I tried, I thought I was going to pull the pipe out of the wall.

I tried the plumber my dad used again. This time he answered. He stopped on his way home and had it fixed in about fifteen minutes. It was a valve, not the flapper. Who knew?

It's actually kind of funny how not getting it fixed right away was weighing on me, especially once it started running on its own. Now I feel so much more relaxed about it. Whew! 

Tuesday, October 07, 2025

Declutter to Major Project

Cartoon woman saying "Wow"

The other day, I finished writing early. Since I had a little extra time, I decided it was a great time to go through a few dresser drawers and clean them out.

I had a garbage bag ready. I had a donation box on the bed. I had determination on my side.

First of all, it was amazing how much crap got shoved into my dresser drawers. Things that had nothing to do with clothing.

Second, I noticed my drawer liners were wadded up messes. I should buy some more paper, I decided, and lay down fresh lining. I decide to search online to find out what's the best paper to use. I stumbled across a Martha Stewart article that talked about using self-adhesive wallpaper as drawer liners.

Hmm, I thought. I kept searching. Everything else either sounded as if it was too much work (wrapping paper and spray adhesive? No thanks!) or if I'd end up again with wadded up paper on the bottom of my drawers. 

The self-adhesive wallpaper idea was sounding pretty good. Martha Stewart had a link, and I did check out that store, but they had an annoying popup that covered my entire screen. I went to Spoonflower next and found some really great contenders, but the price. Ouch!

Which led me to Amazon to see if they had something cheap yet attractive. This wasn't going on my walls after all, but inside drawers. And I didn't have to scroll long to find one I liked and it was on sale for $4.99 a roll. I couldn't even get a sample at the other sites for that small amount of money. I ordered a few rolls because I'm really bad at judging how much I'll need. I figured if it's too much, I can use it in my bathroom drawers and if it's too little, something else will be on sale.

Of course, by the time the wallpaper arrives, I'll probably have lost my motivation to tackle the task. Measuring correctly, cutting neatly, and putting down the wallpaper sounds like a major project.

Thursday, October 02, 2025

ADHD and Writing: What Works for Me

Open book with magical sparkles. Caption is Writing

I had a few thoughts recently on ADHD and writing, and I'm going to share some of them here.

Now that I've been diagnosed, I look back and think how was it missed for this long? It's just there in every facet of my life.

Time blindness, procrastination, falling down a rabbit hole on hobbies and interests, going all in on those hobbies and then abandoning most of them. I can go on and on giving examples.

School assignments? 10pm the night before they're due. I learned how to compose at the keyboard instead of writing longhand and typing it in later because I took a short story writing class in college and didn't start my stories until 11pm the night before they were due. Ten to twenty pages? No problem.

The other thing I find interesting now that I know I have ADHD is that I hacked my own life to make it function. Seriously, I watch these ADHD hack videos on YouTube and I either already do them or I've tried them and they didn't work for me.

Writing and ADHD has been a struggle for me even when I didn't realize I had ADHD. I started writing when I was fourteen and my past is littered with projects that I wrote a few chapters on, revised until I was happy with them, then got bored and started a new story. I had to learn not to revise until the first draft was done and that was hard!

I learned to focus one scene at a time. My mantra was It can all be fixed on revision to keep myself moving forward, because if I stopped, I'd never finish the book.

And then I sold my first book. My second book had a four-month deadline. My third book? A four and a half month deadline. The fastest I'd written a book before that was one year. Somehow I managed to finish these books on time.

Someone asked me how long it took me to write a book and I countered with What's my deadline? Because if it's eight months, I'll write the book in eight months. If it's a year, it will take a year. I don't think I could do less than four months--that was really pushing it--but I did do it.

I think every writer needs to find what works for them as a process regardless if they have ADHD or not. No two writers are the same. But here is what's worked for me.

  • Focusing on one scene at a time - Trying to think about writing a full book is overwhelming. A scene isn't for me. And when a scene did feel overwhelming, I would think about it in terms of pages. I needed to break it down into small chunks. I think this would work for any writer if they feel overwhelmed by the length.
  • Putting up a kanban board on my office wall - I load the board with each chapter I need to write for the book. I'm not a plotter, so I don't know what's happening in these chapters, but I've written for enough years now that I have a good idea of how long it will take to tell the story I'm writing. My Paladin League books are around 80,000 words--the first draft often longer before it's edited--and I aim for around 36 chapters. Again, some books end up with more chapters and I adjust my kanban board as I go. The idea is my progress and how far I need to go is in my face every time I leave my office.
  • Moving the Post-it Notes on my kanban board - I love checking off boxes in my planner and I definitely love moving my kanban board Post-it Notes from the In Work section to the Finished section. If I didn't get a little hit of dopamine doing this, I'm not sure the kanban board would work for me, but I do and it does.
     
    This is an old picture of my kanban board. That word of the year is gone now and this is several books ago. If I'm not mistaken, this was when I was editing Wicked Suspicion and loaded the board for the next Paladin League book, Wicked Ambition, which is now on sale. Because this system works for me so well, I committed to it with vinyl section titles.
  • Using a combination of Excel and OneNote to keep track of my books/series - I tried so many other tools, Scrivener, Notion, notebooks, etc, and while I'm sure if I just had unlimited time and dopamine, I could learn Notion. (I want to use Notion so badly!) But my patience level isn't there. I want a tool I can sit down and use now, not after months of learning. I wrote Wicked Obsession partially in Scrivener and was certain I'd use it for the entire series, so I have information missing out of my series bible and OneNote collection for this book. No matter what I tried or what templates I purchased, Excel and OneNote work for me the best. Right now.
  • My new writing planner - I will do a full review post on this after I've used it a little longer, but currently it's working really well. (If you want to read about how I set up an Erin Condren planner as my writing planner, you can check out Part One and Part Two). I'm still figuring out some of my sections, but the weekly dashboard layout is doing well for me. Right now. I have to qualify it because I haven't used it long enough to know if it will work indefinitely or if it's a good for right now thing.
  • Time Tracking - What am I doing with my time when I'm at home? Every half an hour, I record the primary use of my time in a vertical booklet meant for a traveler's notebook. It's accountability. As someone easily distracted, I need to hold myself accountable. I tried using another booklet to time block, but that didn't work for me at all.
  • Tracking Word Count - Some writers keep track of the time they spent writing to monitor themselves, but I get distracted too much and too easily. I know I'll be distracted. So time spent "writing" doesn't work for me as an accountability measure. Word Count does. How much forward progress did I make today? That's part of what I'm using my writing planner for. I added little circles that represent 250 words. My goal is to color in 4 every day--1000 words. More is a bonus. Yes, there are disappointing days, days where I did put in the time, but the scene isn't working and I cut it, and I have a negative word count for the day. Even with this, it's still a better measurement for me than time, because Oooh! Shiny! is a real thing for me.

I think this is everything I do to keep myself on track. I hope this helps someone.